Returning Home

Updated on Friday 22 July 2011

When you first arrived in the UK, you may have experienced culture shock. New surroundings, a new environment, new traditions, etc. can leave you feeling disoriented and isolated.

The same is true when you return to your home country – you can experience reverse culture shock. After spending anywhere up to 3 or 4 years in the UK, you have become accustomed to English ways, English traditions, your new expatriate life, in ways you may not even realize.

The degree and severity of this shock will also depend on what country you are from. The USA and many parts of Europe have similar cultures to the UK and so culture shock may not be as bad as other countries.

The following article from intermundo.net provides further insight into reverse culture shock:

When coming home after a 5 year stay in the Middle East I was really happy at first. Although I loved being there - I really missed home a lot. And then it seemed so great to have all the things back that I have missed for so long. But after a month things seemed to get worse - I was very miserable, got depressed and missed the Middle East. The people appeared strange, and even my family and friends, whom I had missed for so long, started to upset me", says Gerhard Baumgarten, a German engineer.

This type of reaction is unfortunately not uncommon - many expatriates face this situation when returning home. After a short while of being enthusiastic about being home again, they feel increasingly isolated and frustrated with their home environment. What is happening, in fact, is a second culture shock.

The problem is, that most people have become a bit of both. As in the example the engineer is no longer "really" German, and has become more "Middle Eastern". So coming home is similar to coming to another culture, particularly as while living abroad many people lose the perspective for their culture. So many people will miss their home while being abroad - but that has a tendency to be an idealized home. Once they move back, they get confronted with the reality.

Another important factor may be that while the expatriate has learned a lot, he has become ac cultured in the host culture- and has been accustomed to a different behaviour - his friends and the family at home did not have those experiences. Whereas the expatriate may have changed behaviour quite drastically, the relatives at home have probably not - and upon returning home the expatriate may appear strange to his friends and relatives. Just as they will appear strange to him.

All my friends were talking about nothing important, they all appeared very square headed to me. (...) None of them really seemed to care for me - we just couldn't communicate at all. After a while they seemed really a bit suspicious of me.", is what Gerhard had to say about his friends. " Now (6 months later) I have a completely new circle of friends. Many of them have lived abroad or are foreigners. Only very few ones are from before going to Israel."

Unfortunately, not many companies are providing intercultural training for their employees when they return home, although the culture shock can be just as deep and depressing as the first one. Many people feel isolated and alienated in their "home" culture.

Although there is no recipe for success, other repatriates may help in such situations. They already know the problem, and can frequently provide help - as well as probably being more culture aware, and more understanding towards the problems of "reintegration".

It is also important to know - and be actively aware of - what is going on. A culture shock usually does not last for longer than a year, knowing that may at least provide some help. If you have any tips on what to do, why not post them below, and help a fellow expatriate to find the way back home!

Thank you to Intermundo.net for letting us use this article. Please visit them for further great articles.